Food–how we eat it, how we prepare it and who we enjoy it with is a window into every culture. Yorùbá culture surrounding food is quite different than the that in the United States and everywhere else I’ve been. The Yorùbás follow a certain set of customs when eating. While they are widely practiced, they are not mandatory.
1. The invitation to eat
Whenever you are eating in front of someone who is not, it is customary to invite that person to join you. The person without food could be a complete stranger but you will still ask them to come eat. You will say come eat, or “wa jeun.” That person can actually start eating your food if they are really hungry, or they will say may it go down well, or “A gba bi re.”
2. No drinking while eating
Many Yorùbá people wait until after they are completely finished eating the meal to drink. Not everyone does this but most older people I have shared a table with at the cafeteria do. They will shovel down their food and chug down a Fanta or Maltina (non-alcoholic malt beverage that is extremely popular here) in a couple gulps.
3. Eat with your hands
In order to explain why eating with your hands makes more sense than eating with a fork and knife it is necessary to understand the type of food Yorùbá people eat. A typical Yorùbá dish is something like a soft but stiff pounded porridge made from cassava or some type of yam (when I say yam yam, I don’t mean sweet potato). This porridge could be called amala, iyan, semofita, fufu, or eba. They are each pretty tasteless but each one definitely tastes and feels different. So you use this mashed potato like food to eat one of the many types of stews. This you do with your right hand, not the left. You take little bits of the porridge thing and mop up bits of soup, put it in your mouth and swallow it, chewing is not necessary. When you see Yorùbá people eating, it is almost always with their hands, unless they are eating rice. All the cafeterias have big jugs of water on the table to wash your hands with before and after the meal.
4. Spoon not fork
If you do not feel like dirtying your hands, or you are not up to the challenge of eating with them, you can use a spoon. Spoon is the eating utensil of choice. Forks are rare.
5. No walking while eating
Eating or drinking while walking is taboo. You never see someone walking down the street munching on peanuts or peeling bananas (the most popular snacks here). Even drinking water while walking is not typical. It is considered bad manners to do this. People who were brought up well are expected to sit down when they eat.
6. Women only
Cooking is a woman’s job in Yorùbáland. Traditionally men planted the yams and did the back breaking work while a woman’s job was to cook for her husband. It is still the same today. I have never seen a man in a kitchen here. Women are the cooks.
7. Cole slaw pretends to be salad
The Yorùbá equivalent to salad is grated cabbage, carrots and cream, a.k.a cole slaw. So if someone asks you if you want salad, it will not be tomatoes, cucumbers and other veggies on a bed of lettuce, it will surely be cole slaw.
The list could probably go on, and over the next 8 months I’m sure I will discover more idiosyncrasies with food culture here. These are just some of the few I’ve picked up on so far. I’m just glad I’m slowly improving on taking the right amount of stew with each scoop of amala so I run out of both at the same time.
Thanking you for the write-up but I must haste to disagree with you that Yorubamen don’t cook or partake in cooking activities.
Thank you so much Titi, I think we all learn from you especially yoruba people ,to remember our culture and yoruba dialect . Famous yoruba people are really doing something aboutit in Nigerial through gbajumo t.v show . You are such a positve inspiration to all of us . I just got to see your adventure in Nigeria early this year and that is why you are seeing my comments now , thank you so much God bless you.
Listening to you, and reading your writing is such a breath of fresh air.
I just want to add that in the olden days in most parts of Yoruba land, and even all over Nigeria, men traditionally farmed and women cooked and kept the home. But the work was always a lot (clearing the land, and planting- as it is done manually) that the men’s wives and children pitched in to help.
Over time I guess the women realized that they were too dependent on their men for everything- clothes, money etc and so they began gaining their independence by being industrious like someone mentioned above. They wove, had farmlands of their own, traded, and dyed cloth for a living. The money raised went towards taking care of their children, most especially in polygamous homes which was the norm back then. Sometimes, some husbands failed to take proper care of their wives and children forcing the women to learn to fend for themselves.
Things are much different today and you find more men helping out in the homes because of the influence of the western world through books, television, and the internet. Nigerian women are industrious, strong and very resilient.
We have men who are doing their best to cater for their families but with the prevailing economy and high cost of living, the women have just got to pitch in and get a good paying job while still maintaining the home front and caring for the children.
Do enjoy your stay in Yoruba land. I wish you the best.
I enjoy reading an article that can make people think.
Also, many thanks for permitting me to comment!
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I recently found out my heritage is Nigerian and yoruba and Falani are my tribes . I am seeking information as I embrace my culture and prepare fro a future trip. ajr
what’s the fork doing there? Strange.
actually. i think i have to disagree a bit. as for the walking and eating thing, i’ve seen people do it. so calling it a ‘taboo’ is a bit strong. also, the part about the womans job was just to cook yam is a bit off. yoruba women , throughout history, were more autonomous than that. “Most Yoruba women labored as weavers, traders or dyers, had their farmlands, and either cultivated on their own land or their husbands’ family lands, to grow a variety of crops, especially grains, yams, and vegetables. Clapperton in 1826 noticed the existence of “fine and large plantations of corn, yams, and vegetables” from Badagry to Oyo Ile.14 It is most probable that some of these well-cultivated plantations were owned by Yoruba women.
As we have noted, the women directly sold their agricultural products of yams, beans, vegetables, cotton and fruits, or they ”
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Egusi with eba is my favourite yoruba dish!!
I can’t get down the pigs skins or dried fish.
But I have started mastering the skill of sucking and eating the bone of different kinds of meats.
and fork isn’t rare!
Oh..just to let you know that some men actually do cook.
hi there Titi, I must say i am very impressed with your yoruba and your love for the culture. I am a yoruba girl my self and i must confess, your yoruba is much better than mine. I wish you a pleasant stay in Nigeria. All the best dearie…hope you get to marry a Nigerian guy.
Hello Titi, I got to know your blog today, and already this is my second post. Your writeups are so interesting, and it is such a great experience to see my culture from the eyes of a foreigner, while I myself am in a foreign land. I miss home so much! But much more importantly, this also helps me to put the culture of my host country in perspective. I will sure be following up on your blogs. Wishing you more great experiences in Ibadan!
I don’t live in the ‘big city’ anymore. I hope you keep updating your post though so i can keep learning of your adventure. Have a lovely stay.
I quite enjoy the writings on your adventure in Yoruba land. Just a point of correction though, i was brought up in ibadan and i think just a few people do not know the difference between cole slaw and salad. You were just unfortunate to meet one of them and that should not be generalized.
Sandra, thanks for much for your great comments. I will make sure to correct the bit about cole slaw and salad. Do you still live in Ibadan? I am enjoying it very much especially since I am coming to know my way around the city more.
Titi
You definately have to tell her like that have respect